I know it's been awhile, but I have had some family stuff to deal with.
Anyway, yesterday was Pregnancy and Infant loss Remembrance Day (15th October), and throughout all of October we remember all our Angel Babies that we have lost and forever hold in our hearts.
Last night as various social media was flooded with photos of lit candles for the ones we had lost and grown their wings, I notice a woman I went to high school with uploaded a photo which said, "for our little peanut."
I messaged her to let her know I was thinking of her, and that I was sorry for her loss. I also let her know that she is not alone, mentioning that I too have miscarried (multiple times) and I have had a stillborn. As I read her reply it was like I heard her sigh with relief. She told me how it felt like she was holding this miscarriage as a huge secret for 3.5 years and it was nice to have someone to talk to about it, especially someone who understands what she is going through.
This got me thinking, do so many of us keep it to ourselves, because others just don't understand? Or do we keep it to ourselves because we think we are alone in this?
I know Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is about getting the message out and re-educating everyone. It is still hard to know that 1 in 4 go through this loss. And I am the 1, as well as a lot of women I know. This is so common now, I just wish others who haven't be through this would have a better understanding about this type of loss.
